Sometimes I forget that I am living in Germany. I almost always think in Lithuanian (or non-verbal), I speak Lithuanian and English, and I hear many different languages like Italian, Spanish, or Russian… Berlin is an international city. It’s so international that drowned into the routine and non thinking about identity, I could call it my own. I have spent quite some time here. So what!? I survived! Therefore, I decided to start a new theme of posts about lasting in a foreign country. As the boards are open and there are many travelers, maybe it will be useful for destiny brothers. Destiny? What destiny? As you sow, you shall reap. As you dispose, you shall live.
I am glad that I have considered myself an optimist since my childhood. I have experienced many different problems and negative emotions, but I always keep believing that everything will be alright in the future. And exactly this hope helps to go over the difficult moments. Everyone has difficulties. Just some of them react by complaining and always seeking for consolation, and the others try to solve the problems or ignore them and notice only the light side of the life. While traveling, it’s important to look at the world through rose-colored glasses, because you have to be much more responsible for yourself than in your native country where you would always find help or consolation. Positive thinking helps going through the problems turning them to challenges.
Disposing well is nothing else than self-deception, which is particularly criticized by pessimists (who usually consider themselves as realists) and by satanists. According to them, life is a pile of shit in which we flounder everyday, and only imbeciles can smile and naively hope for joyful changes. Anyway, positive thinking becomes a part of us whenever we get used to it (the same might happen with the negative thinking). And such self-programming to be the “stupid” optimist, helps getting over obstacles in temporary travels as well as in the whole path of life.
Most optimists who I know say that they need to strive to keep their optimism. In other words, they need to put their rose-colored glasses on when the tears are gathering. I know not so many natural positive thinkers. Perhaps, it depends on the character type and the education in the childhood. So how should you program yourself?
Optimism is closely bounded to aspiring to own purposes. The vision of the future strengthens the belief in the lighter future and it raises the motivation to do something to the direction of the vision. Some conversation with a motivated person usually inspires me to gain my own purposes. So I would say that the clear purpose and motive to reach it, adds charisma to human beings. So finding an aim and going towards it would be the key to optimism.
Positiveness is also related to some carelessness which is good when you are risking or doing something for the first time: “I don’t care about a possible failure! Let it be. Someday it will be better!” There are many things in traveling, that you might do for the first time, i.e. shopping when the seller can’t speak any languages that you know, and you have to keep the conversation by gestures and mimics. Also risk causes the producing of adrenalin which is a good spice in the life.
So when you go out from your native country, be it for a week on vacation, summer to work, or a semester to study, the most important thing is to dispose well. As the call, so the echo. The good mood is infectious and moreover it magnetizes other people. But I will talk about them next time.
Tags: lifestyle, philosophy, psychology, traveling
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Lithuanian sayings like “As the call, so the echo” sounds a bit creepy in english. : )
That’s the official equivalent. It’s not a literal translation by me.